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| I believe he does not have me or our sons best interest at heart either and now it is down to once a month and I haven't really been here when he comes to visit i let my sister be here when he comes and he pays 300 a month for both children child support and yes the person he lives with is really his sister her boyfriend lives with them too |
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By : Diane Date/time : August 31, 2009 4:18am |
Hi Tanya,
Apparently, the two of you are not worth his time to invest in a home life and being a hands on father. Sure is easier for him. No real responsibility for the most part. What exactly is so great about this guy? Only two days a month he comes over ? There's something wrong with the picture you paint of his life, imho. Have you met his 'sister' yet or been to the home he shares with her? Does he contribute financially for his child's needs? I think deep down you already know what you need to do. Good luck, my friend. |
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By : FRANCES Date/time : August 27, 2009 4:38am |
| I been with my husband 15 year got marry a year and 5 month and now me and my husband argue all the time he alcoholics and im disable.it all way about money and my son.my son just turn 17 and still in school and not working he feel my son should get a job i dont because is focus on school right i feel as long i have income to take my son why should that be a problem i never ask him for money to take care my son never the sense we bend to gether |
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By : FRANCES Date/time : August 27, 2009 4:32am |
| I been with my husband 15 year got marry a year and 5 month and now me and my husband argue all the time he alcoholics and im disable.it all way about money and my son.my son just turn 17 and still in school and not working he feel my son should it a job i dont because is focus on school right i feel as long i have income to take my son why should that be a problem i never him for money to take care my son never the sense we bend to gether |
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By : Deliah Date/time : July 29, 2009 7:34am |
| It sounds like you have tried communicating and I'm sure you have attempted some compromise...considering he does not live with you and you remained in the relationship. I agree with most of the advice above. You need to put the well-being of your children and yourself ahead of your boyfriend's feelings at this time. Maybe come up with what options you feel you have...without losing any dignity (I see cheating and changing sexual orientation has been suggested)! I'm sure this has been hard enough on you already and it can't be easy for your boys, so do what you know is right. Be strong and good luck! |
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By : kevin Date/time : July 14, 2009 1:06am |
| Did you have a talk with him, and told him what are you feeling, if not. I do suggest thay you have a talk with him first, if communication is faild, then take some action .after all, he is your son father. |
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By : steven Date/time : July 11, 2009 2:10pm |
| i think u should go sleep with another man. making him jealous will help him realize that ur the one for him.and after he begs to come back to you, reject him.you can do better.become a lesbian and flaunt it in his face. |
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By : rosanna Date/time : June 9, 2009 8:18pm |
| YES HE SOUNDS VERY FISHY TOO ME.ARE YOU CERTAIN THAT THE WOMAN HES LIVING WITH IS REALLY HIS SISTER?SOUNDS LIKE HES LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE,MOVE ON 7 YEARS ARE ENOUGH JUST MAKE SURE HE PAYS HIS CHILD SUPPORT,AND IF YOU HAVENT MADE HIM PAY THATS PROBALY 1 OF THE REASONS HE COMES AROUND,YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN DESERVE BETTER |
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By : tanya Date/time : April 28, 2009 6:24am |
| I am not allowing it really or maybe iam sometimes I think he is the best i am going to get and by the way my sons are 5 and 2 and he says they won't remember this time any way But I am ready to move on he really does not want to be with me or he would have fixed it or even tried to fix the problem by now it has been seven years I just needed to hear what other people might think and make sure it wasn't just me Thanks |
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By : Lisa Date/time : April 25, 2009 9:36am |
| You have allowed him to have the best of both worlds at your expense. When he feels like being a boyfriend and Daddy he can come and stay with you. When he feels like being a single man he can stay at his sister's. You control this and you need to tell him that he can visit his son but he is not staying. Twice a month to see his son. Wow, he needs to do better then that and why are you allowing it. |
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By : Nancy Date/time : April 25, 2009 6:12am |
Absolutley! I agree with Michelle. As hard as it may seem, it's time to move on. You've heard the old saying: Actions speak louder than words?
Sometimes, we are so blinded by our feelings,we are not able to see the big picture.
Do yourself AND your son a favor, and move on.
He can still be the boy's father and spend time with him. You don't HAVE to be involved in a relationship with a man to be happy - I hope.
How old is your son, by the way? Find things that you enjoy doing, do things with your son, and things will be fine.
When he sees that you have too much respect for yourself to allow this to continue, he MAY change his ways, but don't hold your breath.
:-)
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By : Michelle Date/time : April 6, 2009 8:42am |
| Well, I would say do a break up. This will show him you are serious about your needs and the needs of your son. Just by the information you stated it does not sound like you have a real realtation ship with your son's father. To be honest with you it sounds like he has the best of both worlds. He has the family on the side that he sees every once an a while and possible either "A" the single life or B the corporate life. For "B" there is no job worth being away from your family. Once you show that you are moving on that should send a red flag saying hey!! what am I doing I need to be with my son's mother and my son. If it does not then move on, it will be hard at first but there is always someone out there that will love you more and love your son.The best advise I can give you is to pray and ask the Lord to guide you through this. |
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By : tanya Date/time : April 3, 2009 4:53pm |
| Me and my son's father have been together for seven years we don't live together he lives 20 minutes from my house and only comes to see me and his son maybe twice a month stays overnight and leaves he lives with his sister and always that life comes before us how can i get him to understand it is time to buck up and be a real father and boyfriend or go. I have talked til i am blue in the face and I always get he is not moving all the way to my house when he works near his sister. |
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