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| I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
Created by : cindy Date/time : October 12, 2010 7:41am |
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| My husband left me, so i had no choice in the matter. I am also in my forties and have three boys, one being a special needs child. It has been hard, but looking back I can honestly say that I am happier now than I ever was when my husband was around. Its sad to admit, but even my boys seem more relaxed and happier without their dad around. The first year after he left was the hardest, but I believe i am stronger now for having gone through it. Good luck. |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : Nancy Date/time : October 26, 2010 8:08pm |
| Dont be scared. I am 55 and I left mine. I live alone and I love it :) |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : Jeannette Date/time : October 20, 2010 2:23am |
!st of all - ignore the question about the severity of the slap = if it's anything that has you discussing it - it's too much! Don't second guess yourself at all. All of your instincts & intuitions are right on. Things are only going to get worse. I want to share with you something that so shocked & inspired me. Several years ago, Jim Carrey and Jenny McCarthy were on Oprah talking about their relationship (and even though they have now peacefully ended it what I'm sharing is still relevant) -- and Jenny spoke about how she had the belief that because she had a son with autism that "who would want to date her", etc.... - and Jim said, that she had re phrase her thinking that she deserved to be happy, that someone would consider themselves fortunate & a privlage to date her!! And Jim ended up having not only a great relationship with Jenny - but had an amazing bond & relationship with Jenny's son also! My point to you is - don't set limitations -- re-frame your picture of what is possible. Erase any negativity you have from your husband and/or from yourself.
Get in front of the mirror every day & tell yourself "I love you, I respect you, you deserve to be loved & treated like a queen"! And I promise you, you will get nothing less. All you have to do is ask...... And know your worth. You are a beautiful being ~ and a wonderful mother. And that beauty & light is going to shine through. And when you leave that which is dark & holding you down & dimming your light, you will begin to shine again! And the right person will be so very attracted to you. Don't be afraid - yes, you will be alone for a little bit, during the transition time (and this will be a good time for you for healing). But you are a woman, you are strong, you can do this! Trust me, once you get through to the other side of this, you are going to look back & say why didn't I do that sooner, I'm so glad to be over this now!
I wish you the best ~ and your children. |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : kim Date/time : October 19, 2010 2:06pm |
| I understand what your saying. But your children will never be happy, until you are happy...! It's hard to not feel loved. But if your not whole hearted with your self, the heart break alone can kill you. You know I never belived that it could happen to me. Untill it did, that's when I had to make it out. When the I love you turns into bitch or abuse its time to Leave! On you, or your kids!! Kids are no-matter what when the hand is to heavy its time to reavaluate the Problem in your case the husband, my advice is try to sit down and talk to him about how the way he hits him in instead of trying harder, bothers you. But can I ask.. do you baby him cause of the disability, & if so. you need them to learn how to live with others, cause when your Gone nobody will take care of him like his Mommy! |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : joe Date/time : October 18, 2010 7:52pm |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : Linda Date/time : October 14, 2010 4:52pm |
You say your husband hits your special need child. is it a light swap on the hand,a slap.
What kind of hitting? |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : cindy Date/time : October 12, 2010 8:53am |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : cindy Date/time : October 12, 2010 8:46am |
| I know I am being a coward aren't I? |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : cindy Date/time : October 12, 2010 8:33am |
| I am the one leaving my husband because he hits my special needs child when he refuses to do something. |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : cindy Date/time : October 12, 2010 8:25am |
| Anyone? |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : cindy Date/time : October 12, 2010 7:57am |
| I am a fairly good looking woman / a little overweight. |
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| RE: I am 44 and thinking of leaving my husband / scared to death of being alone |
By : cindy Date/time : October 12, 2010 7:41am |
| I am scared to death of being alone at 44 years old / I am a female and I am afraid I won't find anyone new. I have 2 children ages 10 and 12. One is a special needs child. I am afraid special needs child will scare anyone off. He is behaviorally a handful and is a challenge daily. Would appreciate any comments / advise. |
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