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| Husband doesn't have a sex drive |
Created by : Carrie Date/time : April 29, 2008 4:04pm |
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I am 31 and my husband of 6 months is 43. We have been together for almost 6 years and for about the past year he has no sex drive. I am too young to give up sex so what do I do? He talked to his doctor who prescribed Viagra and that didn't even work.
Please help!!!! |
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| RE: Husband doesn't have a sex drive |
By : r Date/time : May 2, 2008 6:16am |
Viagra is not going to help unless your husband is already interested in sex. In other words, he has to HAVE a sex drive but just be unable to maintain and erection.
Has your husband had his serum testosterone levels tested? If they are lower than normal, a topical testosterone gel such as androgel may help.
Good luck! |
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By : Heather Date/time : May 12, 2008 5:16am |
| I've been going through the same thing with my husband for the past 4 years, and it's not getting any better. If anything it's gotten worse. My husband & I have been basically roommates for the past 3 of those 4 years. Good luck!! |
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By : Amy Date/time : May 22, 2008 11:39am |
| Go see a marriage counselor if hormone therapy doesn't work. Since the Viagra didn't work, something else is wrong. It may be a problem he feels that he can't talk about with you. |
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By : Robert Date/time : May 23, 2008 6:13pm |
| I can empathize with your situation! I am a 43 year old male and I know first hand where your husband is coming from and how he is feeling! I know that at your young age it's going to be hard for you to believe and possibly accept but after I turned 40, and I'm sure your husband knows and feels the same way, the sex drive starts to rapidly diminish! It's just not as important as it apparently used to be for me to even have an orgasm! It's also too much work! |
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By : Deborah Date/time : May 29, 2008 7:44pm |
| Maybe some of these men are going through the change !My man is 50 and going strong even after 2 yrs that we have been together, by the way I'm 45 and and I can't keep up.lol no he doesn't use viagra |
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By : Deborah Date/time : May 29, 2008 7:47pm |
| try changing your routin at night like dress up in a tight nightgown, in one of his work shirts , with socks , and act like a shy gal ! this might help. |
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By : Desiree Date/time : June 3, 2008 9:06pm |
| Set the mood for him, what does he like, is he a romantic kind of guy? Is his day stressful and just wants to relax when he gets home...Try cooking him his favorite meal and then offering a foot massage. Men don't realize that they need relaxation or romance just as much as women once in a while. Flirt with your husband, leave love notes in his briefcase or give a little love pat on the butt when he walks by. Sometimes just reigniting the flame will get things going again |
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By : Jeanne Date/time : June 13, 2008 1:23pm |
| My husband was 48 and I was 47 when we married and are both in good shape. He, too, had no sex drive, I quickly learned. Cooking his favorite meals, dressing sexy and all the little things you can do to flirt did nothing to help, and in fact, aggravated him. Many trips to specialists showed no problems. Viagra and all the rest did not help. Counseling neither. Good luck. After 2 years of no sex as newlyweds, I left. Life is too short. |
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By : christle Date/time : June 18, 2008 2:50pm |
| what med. are the men on ..it make made a big differt... |
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By : LAURA Date/time : June 19, 2008 11:41pm |
| I am 35 and he is 51 and we hardly have any sex. We have been married for 10 years now. We have a horrible lifestyle, out of work, sinking in debt and a child in between. Nothing helps. He can't get a decent job. I am overweight after that damn pregnancy, and no matter how much I try to exercise does not work. I do believe mid life crisis caught up with him and is affecting our lives, I wish I could just walk out with my son, but a divorce is sooooooo expensive here in CA. good luck to u all! |
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By : Michael Date/time : October 4, 2008 6:49pm |
| Speaking on my behalf, I have the sex drive at 42, but just dont have the stamina. It is over too quick and I have to use other methods to satisfy when I am done. I am not really out of shape, but tire too quickly because of a childhood heart murmur. |
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By : LaDonna Date/time : October 7, 2008 3:25pm |
| There was a recent study that says men have much less of a sex drive than they're stereotyped to have - but none want to admit it! I have a friend who gets sex on her anniversary if she's lucky and her hubby won't do a thing about it, probably because he's embarrassed. He's never had much of a sex drive. And they're young! You're not alone! |
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By : Courtney Date/time : October 16, 2008 6:45pm |
| Don't know if this will help or not but my husband ended up finding out that he had very low testosterone and now has to inject himself with it every few days. He has done almost a 180, he has a ton more energy and his mood is better, not to mention the sex drive! Maybe get your man tested? |
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By : j Date/time : October 16, 2008 9:21pm |
| there are suppliments that can help in some situations. even a few can be found at walmart and walgreens. aside from this, communication is the best booster your ever going to find. i am pushing 40, and my drive is still higher than hers at 25. |
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By : Joyce Date/time : November 1, 2008 5:30am |
unfortunately, with the limited information given, any advice would be pure speculation...
It could be anything from health issues, to homosexuality, to non-interest in a nagging wife, to an outside affair...
all anyone can safely recommend is to seek professional help/counseling to get to the bottom of the issue, then decide if you two can work it out together...best wishes :) |
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By : stefan Date/time : November 1, 2008 7:54am |
| could be medication he is taking |
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By : luanne Date/time : November 8, 2008 7:26pm |
| I went through this with my first husband. Smoking and drinking, and also having high blood pressure are the biggest causes. Good luck |
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By : Mary Date/time : November 10, 2008 12:52am |
The shoe is on the other foot in this marriage..
I'm the one with no sex drive and obligations are performed out of love.
Tons of love for this man of 36 yrs and three adult children *no grandkids bc my girls are unable to have children naturally*.
I feel so bad about not having the desire for sex and understand thats how a man recieves love from his wife.
But it's just not there.
shoe on the other foot here. |
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By : Jacqueline Date/time : December 24, 2008 7:04am |
 I understand where you're coming from. My husband and I haven't had sex for about 9 years. It's very frustrating. My husband is diabetic and out of shape and on a lot of medications. Have your husband get a physical and make sure he can get an erection. It could be a medical problem. Good luck! |
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By : Ronnie Date/time : December 26, 2008 7:27am |
if you've never 'cum' in your man or womans hand. than you fully don't understand the art of play, for pleasure. ejaculation and orgasm are personal to the individual both don't have to experience it to be pleasured. can your love find its pleasure again.
R. |
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| RE: Husband doesn't have a sex drive |
By : Carol Date/time : January 4, 2009 10:19pm |
O.K. I've got the solution and much more!
Both of you need to go to a strip club where the girls give you a lap dance, but instead of your husband getting the lap dance you get the lap dance with your husband sitting right next to you watching both of you. Talk dirty to your man while this is going on, men love all this dirty sexy talk. Also make sure your husband picks out the girl not you. This is the most hottest event you both will ever have. Have your car ready! |
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