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| Husband doesn't have a sex drive |
Created by : Carrie Date/time : April 29, 2008 4:04pm |
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| I think that the lines of communication need to be open all the time. I talk with my hubby about things like this and we have found ways to overcome this without having to resort to Viagra or the doctors. It is something that always will be a problem but nothing to get all that upset about. Always talk about it before you give up. |
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By : Sonya Date/time : August 19, 2010 8:21am |
| omg |
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By : shuquita Date/time : August 16, 2010 12:34pm |
| ARE HE CHEAT ON YOU |
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By : ford Date/time : September 28, 2009 4:43pm |
you need to light up the bedroom, maybe he's looking for a freak. bring in some toys, movies, roleplay.
start w/ oral sex, take your time and let him enjoy. try and offer some once in a while treats like anal or a good hand job. spice it up and keep him wondering whats next.
i,ve been married for 7 yrs and cant get enough. |
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By : George Date/time : September 28, 2009 3:47am |
Don't know. I used to have sex with the misses all the time.
Now?
Not so much.
We've both gotten fat, and I have no real interest in her. She complains, but seriously. I don't even get why she's still interested. I'm worse than she is, lol. She's maybe 200 or so. I'm well over 300.
*Shrugs*
My joints aren't cut out for this crap :p |
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By : sarah Date/time : September 18, 2009 10:05pm |
| im a stay at home mom with 2 under 3 yrs old, for me sex can too rotine and it turns into more work, you just have to say what you want. . . and make sure you get it! |
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By : Bonnie Date/time : September 16, 2009 2:33pm |
 I thought it was just us! Is almost nice to hear other people have the same problem. My husband hasn't had a sex drive for over a year and it doesn't seem to matter what is done. I though once he stopped drinking it would help but NOPE it didn't. And when I do get cute or sweet he seems to get aggrevated so I don't anymore because it makes me feel horrible. I really am not sure what to do. He is 42, and I'm 50 and I feel like we're acting like life is over and wow does it bother me. I am not 6' under yet! |
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By : anna Date/time : September 13, 2009 10:21pm |
 Megan....too mucb information but hope it helps her LOL... |
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By : anna Date/time : September 13, 2009 10:20pm |
| I say get him drunk! |
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By : William Date/time : September 8, 2009 6:49pm |
 in my case the first time before I had sex with my girlfriend at her place on my birthday, she
asked me if I wanted to go upstairs then she grabbed my crotch and that got me nice and hard
and we went upstairs and we had sex for a while
and towards the end I got her to reach orgasam
so we were both sastified sexually. I was think
ing maybe she was going to give me oral, maybe I
should of asked as I never received a blowjob but
had two offers, then i thought it was gross but that changed when i used to watch the sunday night
sex show on oxyegon. i hope i meet a female who loves into, open to giving and receiving oral as
i would her. I wish you the best of luck. |
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By : christina Date/time : September 6, 2009 9:35am |
| Ok.. first of all you husband needs to have a complete physical if he has not already...and let his doc know the viagra is not working. ONCE you have ruled out a physical issue impairing his sex drive keep this in mind. He may have had issues in the past attaining an erection ..and knows your disappointment so mentally his mind doesn't want to go there. Once men have had a failure to launch their body often is their own worst enemy. It may take alot of encouragement on your part. If "it" doesn't work dont give in to rolling over in frustration...continue to be sexual. Tell him to do other things to you... tell him how great he makes you feel while he is doing those things etc. Overcoming the mental part is harder than the physical! |
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By : Thomas Date/time : August 19, 2009 7:52pm |
| What about the woman that does NOT have a sex drive? |
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By : Lynne Date/time : August 9, 2009 8:31pm |
| See a specialist. I'm a nurse and there's plenty of medications that could possibly help him. At 43 yrs old there's something amiss for him to have no sex drive. Make sure that he's communicating any problems that he might have with you too. Don't take it personally if he does but be open and work with him. He might just need a little more spice, who knows. Certainly worth talking about. If you've already tried talking, then get him to a Dr. |
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By : Karen Date/time : July 31, 2009 11:20am |
My best advice is to find a doctor that deals exclusively with bio-identical hormones. My husband and I have been taking them for over four years and have a fabulous sex life. He is 65 and I am 60. It is not unusual for us to make love every day.
The objective is to increase your hormones to that of a thirty year old. Even then a person needs to have specific blood tests to determine what levels they are presently at. This is a very individualized treatment that requires a specialist in this field. You may be able to find such a doctor...I reccommend an M.D., in your area, by typing into your search engine "bio-identical hormone replacement" or ask the local hospital if they are aware of such a practioner.
Hope this helps! |
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By : deb Date/time : April 8, 2009 10:20am |
| try pumpkin seeds |
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By : Nicole Date/time : April 1, 2009 12:29am |
| Maybe get a girlfriend? either it will tweek his interest or just be an outlet for pleasure for you! i have been thinking about it. My husband is 45 going on 46 this year and i just turned 33. I haven't had sex since our wedding and that was frustrating. Did really have sex at all for about 2 years before. We are both over weight and need ot get healthy. Stuck to your guns. maybe he could get some toys and videos for you from the store and help you along even if he isn't having intercourse with you. |
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By : cynthia Date/time : March 20, 2009 12:36am |
 My husband is out of shape,diabetic and on lots of medication but he is a sex-a-holic. He is 50 years old. I am the one who has lost interest and only do it to keep him happy. I work 12 hr shifts,clean the house,do the shopping,transport the kids to sports practices and games,laundry,cook etc and when he gets home he can just be fed and relax. His out of shape,medicated body gives him no energy for anything but sex. Go figure. |
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By : sherry Date/time : March 18, 2009 7:45pm |
 I say get a medical Doctors advice because it's probably his hormones. |
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By : Jennifer Date/time : March 13, 2009 5:03pm |
Sorry...
What I have learned about men in their 40's.
They change and can't keep up with it then starting to have NO sex drive for rest of the life.
There is only way you can give alot of love.. but if you have a high sex drive, then don't hang out with a man who have no sex drive Unless just to love him for rest of your life with no sex.
Good luck! |
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By : Lyn Date/time : March 5, 2009 7:12pm |
| I am in the same boat. My husband of 20 years is going through a mid-life crisis and sex is the last thing on his mind. He's depressed because we have debt and aren't any better off financially than when we first were married. I believe his testosterone level is low but he refuses to see a doctor. He used to be the most ready and willing man I knew. Never turned me down until last year. I'm praying every day that this passes. He says he still loves me and I love him more than ever........ |
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By : Sandra Date/time : March 4, 2009 2:11pm |
| Unfortunately,we seem to have the same problems it seems as a lot of you all. My husband is 47 and I am 44. We have a grown daughter out of the house and a 16 yr old daughter at home. We have been married for 25 yrs this Aug. We don't have sex either and I am frustrated cause I have asked him numerously (and nicely) about what seems to be the problem. He doesn't have an answer. I am too young to not have sex the rest of my life. What can I do? Thanks. Sandy |
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By : Laura Date/time : March 3, 2009 10:39am |
| Me and my husband have been married 14 years,we kind of went through that,but we spiced things up trying new things.I've always been afraid of anal,but it's great!We also like to invite another woman to a threesome with us occasionally.It was my idea,and it really works wonders for "the spice in our sex lives" |
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By : diana Date/time : March 1, 2009 10:51pm |
| We are in same boat. My husband had a physical and doc said no erection is due to his smoking. It causes lack of oxyogen. Must quit smoking, try another med. instead of viagra and get on a exercise program. I could do some exercising myself and get back in shape! we are in our late 40's, married 23 years! We still love eachother but the sex has gone south! I have hope!! |
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By : George Date/time : February 20, 2009 7:22am |
| I'm a 58 year old man and just as horny and strong as I was at 20. My problem is my wife. After she went through the change she suddenly has no desire for sex. I guess it works both ways. |
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By : Megan Date/time : January 20, 2009 10:40pm |
| DRESS UP IN A LIL NURSE OUTFIT WITH NO PANTIES ON! SIT ON THE COUCH AND SPREAD YOUR LEGS AND START FINGERING YOURSELF! ASK HIM IF HE WOULD MIND HELPING YOU GET OFF! IM SURE HE WILL WANT TO STICK HIS DICK IN YOU INSTEAD OF SOME FINGERS! HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT ANAL SEX I LOVE IT AND IF YOUR OK WITH IT GIVE IT A TRY! GO SLOW AT FIRST SO IT DOSENT HURT AND RUB YOUR CLIT WHILE YOUR DOING IT AND IN NO TIME IF WILL BE YOUR FAV THING! IF NOTHING ELSE GO TO A SEX SHOP GET A PORNO A VIBRATOR AND MAKE THAT PUSSY CUM YOURSELF!!! |
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