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| How do I keep busy so I won't go back |
Created by : tanya Date/time : April 29, 2009 10:23am |
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GET A JOB GO BACK TO SCHOOL HAVE A MAKE OVER DO ANYTHING YOU CAN THINK OF FOR YOURSELF
THE ONLY PERSON WHO TRUELY LOVES YOU AND KNOWS WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU IS YOU MY HUSBAND DONT RESPECT ME NO MATTER WHAT AND MOST WOMAN JUST WANT TO TAKE WHATS ALREADY YOURS |
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By : Opal Date/time : March 11, 2010 5:50pm |
| I agree Changing of the locks and restaining order will change alot of things if ur really serious.that will relieve alot of stress and maybe a new man in ur life. |
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By : Michelle Date/time : February 4, 2010 9:36pm |
| Simple enough! Change the locks on the doors, change your phone number. Done! |
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By : carol Date/time : January 25, 2010 6:13am |
| there should be no trying to keep busy...if you really want him out of your life change your locks and phone number..have a restraint put against him if you feel threatened. Your kids are your number one priority..you decided to get into this relationship and they pay for it.......Get mental help if you need it!! |
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By : Paula Date/time : October 5, 2009 2:20pm |
Tanya - anthony is a jerk, and Francesca isn't making much sense. This relationship is part of your past, and now you just need it to stay there and quit getting in the way of your future. Nobody has any right to judge you for getting out from under a creep.
google the Institute for relational harm reduction. You can get a free newsletter that deals with this exact thing and offers tips and support for getting and staying out of harmful relationships.
It's probably best that your kids don't see much of this guy - they will learn from him how to treat _you_. Don't meet him. Don't talk to him. Change your locks and keep a file on every time he tries to contact you. |
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By : tanya Date/time : September 30, 2009 1:31pm |
| This is to anthony first of all he is my childrens father and he is a jerk because he lives 20 minutes from his sons and only can free up one day a month for his sons and not to mention he thinks 300 dollars a month is enough to take care of two children and I am not lazy I work and go to school full time and I am not hardly bad in bed I have not gotten any complaints And I am not the one who has to grow up it is him I take good care of my sons he can not say the same And I am a good woman just looking for some happiness |
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By : Jill Date/time : September 19, 2009 3:20pm |
| Set Your phone to private so his calls wont come through and you will never know hws calling. Then just change the locks and forget about the old key. Been there Jill |
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By : Sheila Date/time : September 17, 2009 10:51pm |
Hi, Tanya. This sounds like an abusive relationship and I'm guessing not your first. Two things life has taught me--sometimes counseling is needed to help us work through issues that cause us to get into abusive relationships. Possibly there are free groups where you live ministering to abused women.
Secondly, if you have ever had faith, that is what you need to go back to. Surround yourself with loving people of faith who will help you and pray for you. |
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By : Keasha Date/time : August 23, 2009 6:08am |
| CHANGE THE LOCKS!!!!! DO NOT MEET HIM ANYWHERE!!! I had a control freak ex who was like that and I know what it's like. Believe me, the cost of changing your locks is worth not having to deal with the aggravation of him entering your house unannounced because he has a key. |
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By : Sam Date/time : August 11, 2009 4:11am |
| when it happened to me i found three new hobbies and focused on them until i had mastered them . by then i was ready to reenter the dating wars .only one hobby was productive , the rest were frivolous |
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By : Lynne Date/time : August 9, 2009 8:27pm |
| It's not easy to get over an obsession, is it? I should know. I had to work on one once too. First of all, don't take any of his calls and block him from texting or emailing you. Don't respond to any of his attempts to reach you. As far as what you can do to keep busy, whatever it might be that would interest you, including dating someone new. Sure.........you're not interested in anyone new so soon but seeing someone else will keep you busy and take your mind off of the "jerk". :"Time heals".............so overused but, oh, so true. Live in the "NOW". Put him in your "PAST" and time will take care of the rest. Above all, don't forget what a jerk he really is. Selective thinking can move you right back into his arms because we remember only the good times and not the bad. Good luck!!! I made it and so can you!!! |
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By : lakysha Date/time : August 6, 2009 6:34am |
| ummm... change the locks. and are you trying to be the next person on nancy grace? |
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By : terrance Date/time : July 21, 2009 10:51am |
| I was a good man to wife and I thought she was good to me butafter she past from cancer I discovered the true person she was. So I truely understand what you have gone thru. I just wanted her to share her life with me without her being two differant people |
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By : Debra Date/time : July 20, 2009 2:18pm |
| Hey Ed I would like to know the answer in the opposite. Why can't us good women find a good man instead of all the jerks. I have had more than my share. I am a widow from the last jerk. No I did not kill him, he did that himself. Why are good men so VERY hard to find? |
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By : edward Date/time : July 17, 2009 11:07am |
| its good that you are doing the right thing by abolishing the relationship. life is to short to worry every day. the question i want to ask is how come us good guys cannot find a good woman ? we are out there you know ! i am ed |
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By : Crystal Date/time : June 29, 2009 6:57pm |
| Anthony - you suck! |
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By : anthony Date/time : June 20, 2009 2:59pm |
Why is he being a jerk to begin with??? are you lazy or bad in bed it takes two for a relationship to work and he may actually have good reasons to be a jerk and what happened with your sons father?
I guess he was being a jerk too lol... Grow up and welcome to the real world and stop expecting too much from men and maybe they will treat you well.
otherwise you will just continue to expose your children to your dysfunctional ways bouncing from man to man forever .....Good luck and if this guy wanted to hurt you he would of done it all ready
its amazing how if a guy gets mad hes being abusive ..visit a womens shelter and you will be able to see truly abused women so get off your high horse people and stop slamming men and see the reality that your just all spoiled baby's that need to grow up and live on your own ....
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By : tim Date/time : June 9, 2009 6:30am |
| YOU CAN MENTION KEY OR RESTRAINING ORDER. IF THAT DOES NOT GET HIS ATTENTION. KEEP NOTE OF DATE, TIME AND CONVERSATIONS YOU HAVE WITH HIM. |
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By : Erin Date/time : May 27, 2009 8:01am |
| Change your locks. |
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By : Terri Date/time : May 20, 2009 10:16am |
| If this is still an issue, you can always have the locks changed. |
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By : Jill Date/time : May 2, 2009 4:58pm |
| PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not meet this guy anywhere! He sounds very controlling which can make him unpredictable. You need to call someone and have the locks changed immediately. You are putting you and your sons at risk. You have no idea when this guy may decide to show up and try to use that key. |
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By : angela Date/time : May 1, 2009 9:23pm |
| To keep busy spend more time with your sons and when he calls and texts and you think about going back remind yourself that you said he is a jerk to not only you but to your sons. Their welfare should be first in your mind - that alone should keep you away from him. To get your key back set up a meeting (in a public place - ie McDonalds...)and after the time is set up call your local police dept. and tell them you'd like to get your key from someone that won't return it. Tell them you have a time arranged with him and have an officer or 2 go with you (or meet you there) just don't let him know that, obviously! Good luck, keep your boys 1st and you will all be fine. |
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By : sandhya Date/time : May 1, 2009 3:13pm |
IF you are really really sure he is safe,unless he wants to persuade you to change your mind or is any way threat to your life and your kids.Pls.do not meet him.But if can take charge of things ,meet him and make sure you go with some backup plan and get the keys.
IT's hard but you have to do -practice day -by -day to live it out and live whole., and stand up with dignity and role model for others and your kids. |
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By : tanya Date/time : April 29, 2009 10:23am |
| If anyone has any suggestions on how do I stay busy so I won't go back to a man who is a jerk to me and my sons. He keeps calling and texting me I just want to move on but he is making it hard.He won't give me back the key to my house unless I agree to see him and I really don't want to see him |
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