http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167 You have allowed him to have the best of both worlds at your expense. When he feels like being a boyfriend and Daddy he can come and stay with you. When he feels like being a single man he can stay at his sister's. You control this and you need to tell him that he can visit his son but he is not staying. Twice a month to see his son. Wow, he needs to do better then that and why are you allowing it. http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167#Reply1675 I am not allowing it really or maybe iam sometimes I think he is the best i am going to get and by the way my sons are 5 and 2 and he says they won't remember this time any way But I am ready to move on he really does not want to be with me or he would have fixed it or even tried to fix the problem by now it has been seven years I just needed to hear what other people might think and make sure it wasn't just me Thanks http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167#Reply1687 YES HE SOUNDS VERY FISHY TOO ME.ARE YOU CERTAIN THAT THE WOMAN HES LIVING WITH IS REALLY HIS SISTER?SOUNDS LIKE HES LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE,MOVE ON 7 YEARS ARE ENOUGH JUST MAKE SURE HE PAYS HIS CHILD SUPPORT,AND IF YOU HAVENT MADE HIM PAY THATS PROBALY 1 OF THE REASONS HE COMES AROUND,YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN DESERVE BETTER http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167#Reply1845 i think u should go sleep with another man. making him jealous will help him realize that ur the one for him.and after he begs to come back to you, reject him.you can do better.become a lesbian and flaunt it in his face. http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167#Reply1920 Did you have a talk with him, and told him what are you feeling, if not. I do suggest thay you have a talk with him first, if communication is faild, then take some action .after all, he is your son father. http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167#Reply1926 It sounds like you have tried communicating and I'm sure you have attempted some compromise...considering he does not live with you and you remained in the relationship. I agree with most of the advice above. You need to put the well-being of your children and yourself ahead of your boyfriend's feelings at this time. Maybe come up with what options you feel you have...without losing any dignity (I see cheating and changing sexual orientation has been suggested)! I'm sure this has been hard enough on you already and it can't be easy for your boys, so do what you know is right. Be strong and good luck! http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167#Reply1975 I been with my husband 15 year got marry a year and 5 month and now me and my husband argue all the time he alcoholics and im disable.it all way about money and my son.my son just turn 17 and still in school and not working he feel my son should it a job i dont because is focus on school right i feel as long i have income to take my son why should that be a problem i never him for money to take care my son never the sense we bend to gether http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167#Reply2086 I been with my husband 15 year got marry a year and 5 month and now me and my husband argue all the time he alcoholics and im disable.it all way about money and my son.my son just turn 17 and still in school and not working he feel my son should get a job i dont because is focus on school right i feel as long i have income to take my son why should that be a problem i never ask him for money to take care my son never the sense we bend to gether http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167#Reply2087 Hi Tanya, Apparently, the two of you are not worth his time to invest in a home life and being a hands on father. Sure is easier for him. No real responsibility for the most part. What exactly is so great about this guy? Only two days a month he comes over ? There's something wrong with the picture you paint of his life, imho. Have you met his 'sister' yet or been to the home he shares with her? Does he contribute financially for his child's needs? I think deep down you already know what you need to do. Good luck, my friend. http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167#Reply2106 I believe he does not have me or our sons best interest at heart either and now it is down to once a month and I haven't really been here when he comes to visit i let my sister be here when he comes and he pays 300 a month for both children child support and yes the person he lives with is really his sister her boyfriend lives with them too http://www.FreeFlys.com/Forums/view_topic.php?Topic=What_should_i_do&id=167&Start=25#Reply2209